Re: Why are so many women single?

Several reasons.

Relationships are not classified: many women are involved, but have not classified their relationships, and therefore will refer to themselves as single (often because the male does not want to commit).

Mixed feelings about there not being enough good black men out there. Sorry ladies, but perfect doesn't exist. However I am in favor of not settling for less.

And knowing that many men are not faithful is not exactly comforting. Someone's boyfriend is always staring you down with his girl by his side. So some women, myself included, would rather be alone than to be bothered by it all.

Re: Why are so many women single?

I agree with your post. There's an old saying - You can do bad all by yourself. You don't need a man to do that and that's one reason why I think that so many people are single.

Re: Why are so many women single?

Men are single as well!! Humans set themselves up for unattainable goals in relationships. Especially in USA we tend to want the fantasy. When the fantasy doesn't come to pass we move on instead of actually communicating with our spouse. I beleive men have the same fears about relationships and if it is infidelity that we are dealing with, what brought that on. Why was there a need to cheat in the first place? It means that someones needs were not being met. Not choosing sides Men and Women cheat. As far as politicians go, I believe it helps their carreers to expose their humaness side, they make mistakes. They get their name out there in the public eye. They apologize and their women stick by their sides. Then there are the people whom are just too scared to put themselves in a position to be hurt. To Love is to be vulurnable to your partner, who wants to be weak? Just my simple opinion, but it has become acceptable to quit in every situation in our society including marriage and relationships. That just sucks for us...

Re: Why are so many women single?

Women now have more choices than our mothers, or grandmothers had. We are making more money, buying homes, and starting businesses as single women. Some of us are single by choice. I'm a single African American Women, and I refused to settle. Also the institution of married isnt taken as serious today as in the past.

Re: Why are so many women single?

I don't know why SO many women are single, but I can tell you why I remain single; quite simply, at this point in my life, I enjoy my freedom. Do I miss having sex? Yes, I do; but I would be telling a lie if I did not admit to the fact that I love the freedom that being single affords me.

I love reading a good book for hours at a time with no interruptions (I have a child, but he is the type of soul that likes to draw elaborate pictures, and compose music on the computer for hours on end. He has been born with a spirit like mine; the type of spirit that feels that time with one's own self, enjoying one's own pursuits, sans interruption, is sheer bliss).

I like sitting up in bed until all hours of the night reading all manner of things on the Internet, doing word puzzles, writing in my journal, watching television. If I had a husband next to me, my time would not be all my own in my bed.

I like the peace and quiet that my house has.
I like the fact that I cook what I want, when I want to, if I want to.
I like being able to get up and make myself coffee at 3 o'clock in the morning, and follow that cup of coffee with a nice, long bubble bath if I so choose; without disturbing my mate.

I like spending all day long in bookstores, and department stores and libraries, knowing that I am free to do so.
I like watching Young and the Restless for 5 hours straight on the soap opera channel on Saturday nights, without anybody interrupting my flow.

I could go on and on. The bottom line is that I'm single because I'm "selfish" with my time. I like to do what I want to do when I want to do it.

Marraige is a job; if one is going to do it right, one has to do their part by putting in a great deal of work, a great deal of time, and much dedication. I think that there are alot of sistas like me who feel that it would be unwise of them to get into a serious relationship with someone when they know deep down inside that they are not ready.

When I'm ready I would cherish a relationship with a fine, beautiful, black man...but right now I'm in love with the relationship that I have with myself, and it feels so good I don't wanna give it up yet.

Re: Why are so many women single?

Just look at some of the comments here for your answer!

Marriage in the US in general and in the Black community in particular, has been marginalized for the past 15+ years. And has led to a whole host of social problems that many of these people today will probably never recover from.

Heck, their was a survey done a couple of years ago that showed of Black men in prison in the US, over 90% grew up in single mother households! 90%+!!!

Now if that is not a clear indication that something is woefully broken, I don't know what is. And funny thing today, I've beared direct witness to this: I've seen Black women get almost zero resitance when announcing that they are pregnant sans marriage, but let one announce that she's getting married. You would have thought she was saying she's going to set herself on fire the way some women reacted.

That' s what puzzles me, a woman will get support when having all kind of babies with multiple men, but the hammer comes down should one say she's getting married. I don't get it?!!?

It's like there is more vitriol against the healthy institution of marriage than it is for bringing children into the world sans a Father and intact home.

And yet folks still wonder why all these kids so messed up today and how come so many "men" refused to be actual men and would rather sit up under some woman and let her be the man. Well it aint that hard to figure out. Most dudes like that grew up with momma babying them and see nothing wrong with it. But when there's a Father in the house most of the non-sense ceases. And I've seen many women actually resent the so called "strong man" many say they desire.

Go figure...

Re: Why are so many women single?

In my opinion, if a woman is single and doesn't want to be then she should first concentrate on what's going to make her more attractive. I am not only talking about looks, although, they are important. Men are visual creatures, and what you look like makes a big difference. And women are visual as well, that's why I think that if you are looking for Mr. Right then you must first become Mrs. Right all the things you expect in a mate you should already possession or be willing to become. In essense, if you want the best then be the best.

Re: Why are so many women single?

Sorry...needed to correct the typo

In my opinion, if a woman is single and doesn't want to be then she should first concentrate on what's going to make her more attractive. I am not only talking about looks, although, they are important. Men are visual creatures, and what you look like makes a big difference. And women are visual as well, that's why I think that if you are looking for Mr. Right then you must first become Mrs. Right all the things you expect in a mate you should already exhibit. Otherwise, it's time to make some changes...in essence, if you want the best then be the best.

Re: Why are so many women single?

The answer is simple. There are very few good men left and worthy enough to love and care for beautiful black intelligent women. Today, more black women are educated and/or advancing their education past college. While, more black men are without jobs, broke, and having more children out of wedlock, and let us not forget; some are even on the down low.

Re: Why are so many women single?

simple, because black women bought into the perception that their idael mate has to be black, love doesnt have a race, so therefore whats wrong with stepping outside the box. there are plenty of single men out there, there just not always black. open your eyes, and think outside of the box.

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